

It is a fine line, and I clearly said I am not defending abuse.
Funny, that’s never been an argument I ever had to make for myself, somehow.
I would argue you have jumped to the cliche ‘wont someone think of the kids’.
It’s no cliché for me. I live with a survivor. When it comes to sexual offenses against children, the kids are the ONLY ones I think about. Adults can take care of themselves, and so can you, which is why it’s amazing to me how offended you are by someone taking the children’s side.
So much so that you actually reduce the position of caring about survivors and their loved ones to merely, in your own word, a cliché. You can’t even discuss what I actually said; you’re forced to erect strawmen: “The downvoted response reeks of the old attitude of oh look a pediatrician lets beat him!” and calling any level of pushback against your insistence on honoring the nuance of pro-pedophilic understanding “the frenzy.”
I don’t need that level of distracting drama, and didn’t employ it: that’s ALL your own.
Life is not black and white, and taking the time to understand motivation of attacks does not mean you sympathize with offenders.
And it does not mean you don’t, either. But this wasn’t about taking time to understand, it was about holding up and defending your all-important nuance that moves eyes away from the crime and toward “understanding the offender.” I don’t stand for it where it’s just a feint to derail discussion away from the victims and onto an arbitrary line in the sand. That helps no one at all, and that’s where you are right now.
Funny thing, I can actually sympathize with offenders, and have specifically had to do exactly that in my own life to be able to support those offended against, which is a tightrope your rhetorical nuance doesn’t hold a candle to, and one you obviously cannot begin to understand.
And I would not ask you to: caring about the actual children whose lives are destroyed is just “cliché” to you, you’ve made that clear. By the same token, your claim to precious linguistic nuance means nothing to me at all, nor does your estimation of me personally: turns out you know nothing about me either.






This is a colloquial discussion of sexual crimes against children, and your hypothesized edge case is so far off the beaten path it might as well be in Narnia.
It’s not just pedantry, it’s Lemmy. You really cannot get more colloquial than here.
No one is stopping anyone from getting help for anything, and it is ridiculous for you to suggest otherwise.
Getting help for anything is about hitting bottom, some limit against which you can no longer bear the cost of challenging. So if your real and genuine concern is truly that some offender be not offended by the colloquial use of the word pedophile, they should not be in this thread chock full of those very obviously mocking them, and neither should you.