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Cake day: September 13th, 2023

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  • The industry is a black pit of hell. It’s amazing, daycares are be regulated, have accreditations, oversight, mandatory reporting laws…but not these places. All you seem to need is a facility.

    They fuck you up in an indelible way. It gives you an immediate distrust for most advice/mental health care/institutions. It gives you permanent issues with self esteem. People also assume that you must have deserved it somehow, that kids only get sent to these places for some kind of “tough love.” You get the life long “this person is crazy; you don’t have to believe them when they say they are being exploited” tag.


  • That hospital – once the home of a Scottish shipping magnate – would be her home for a month in April 1958, after a judge ordered the then-16-year-old to undergo treatment for “disobedient” behaviour.

    Even when these facilities aren’t being used by the CIA to experiment, they are already torture facilities.

    The US has an entire cottage industry of “troubled teen” treatment programs which are essentially completely unregulated. No requirements on accreditation, no requirements that staff have any sort of training, no requirements that the care offered be evidence-based. Children are raped and die at these places and it is covered up. Parents can essentially sign away all of their children’s rights.




  • I taught middle school briefly. I had a student that was sexually harassing another one of my students. Using “[student’s name] GYATT” as a nickname in kahoots and shit. The student being harassed had also transferred in from being homeschooled all her life - no experience dealing with this kind of shit.

    Admin refused to do anything. I rearranged my seating chart to put them as far away from each other as possible, but admin blew me off when I asked if the problem student could be transferred to another class. Nope! Left me on read.

    It’s insidious in Oklahoma. I imagine it’s the same in Louisiana. They really do not care about sexual harassment. It’s the “good old boy” system, where they refuse to consider it as anything more than a minor issue.


  • I found out my mom had spent three decades of my life lying about who my biological father was.

    She has always spun some romantic bullshit story about a specific guy. Like I’m talking there was a whole ass story of her life leading up to my conception that she liked to tell me. A pretty fucked up story - she was a teenager, this guy was in his early twenties. But still, a mostly normal and consensual story barring the statuary aspect, not at all shocking where we live. He knocks her up, chickens out immediately, dumps her, etc. There was even a cathartic story about her being a then abandoned pregnant Sonic carhop, discovering the guy as a customer and throwing fries at his face. She describes my eyes and hair as his.

    I reach out to the guy as a teenager with help from family, who keep track of this guy throughout the years in case I’d want to ever make connection. I reach out, he denies that he’s my father. Well, sucks, but nothing too unexpected.

    As a lark, I get genetics testing kit one year. It’s on Amazon prime (back when that was a good deal and back before I realized how problematic that giving my DNA to a random company.)

    I take the test. A woman reaches out. My aunt. And she’s not the sister of my “father.”

    My biological father was a different adult man (mid twenties) who raped a teenager he met at a party. Even told me to my face that he hadn’t been interested in her, but more in her older sister.

    When I confronted her with this. It was a non reaction. It was “oh.” She’s told so many lies throughout her life, but this was finally the one she couldn’t bullshit her way out of. She lied to me for thirty years, and unlike any other lie she’s told, there‘s no “oh you’re just remembering it differently” or “I didn’t really mean that.”

    The most difficult thing is that maybe it was traumatic for her. Maybe it was violent. I’ve met him twice, and neither experience was really pleasant. He has a history. Maybe she did block it out, repress it in that Freudian way and did convince herself that some guy she had a crush on and her had some secret little tryst. Realizing maybe the hell of my childhood had an explanation - that she was trying to punish me, that she hated me as a symbol of rape. Can I forgive her for that?

    It’s just such a complicated and difficult thing to wrap my head around. Nothing about her as a person has ever made any sense.









  • The two major improvements with JW’s right now are that the New Zealand court battle means that they need to give up some aspects of “disfellowshipping” - basically, doing something against the religions rules could result in you losing all of your friends, family and social connection. The kind of situation where maybe you could talk to your family again if yo were actively dying. Now the rules allow sending along an invite them to church (“Kingdom Hall”) meetings and maybe a short “hello” occasionally.

    The other change is that they just got rid of the informal “ban” on college education that they’ve had for ages. Dads letting their kids get college educations could be punished at church, and there’s a ton of JW propaganda that discourages more than graduating high school. They’re recognizing that isn’t economically viable, and also they need educated professionals to run their ministry.

    I don’t know if that’s they are getting more “relaxed” though. It’s more a savvy game to hold on to power and avoid consequences.





  • If you are a veteran, I hope that if you believe in heaven that you realize that you’re going to hell… Because breaking the Commandments includes not murdering for any reason whatsoever including for your country.

    The Bible is pretty explicit that killing in warfare doesn’t count. The prohibition is specifically of murder. I’d ask if you were a Jehovah’s Witness, who do interpret the verse this way, but 99% of Christians and Jews would understand that commandment as only discussing killing out of warfare. You comment later that you are “playing to the Christian Reader” - this is something that absolutely would not work. (And why? Lemmy is like 90% atheist?)

    Also - you get that the vast majority of people who join the military never kill anyone right? Not every soldier goes to the front lines, hell, the majority don’t.

    Many people who join are young people who believe that they are actually protecting their country. Because, that’s what the military would ideally do. Yeah, in reality the US is a hegemon that does a lot of fucked up shit, but stupid 18 year olds don’t usually understand that. Someone whose body got fucked up because they believed that they were “protecting their country” because the media and their entire social world told them that should probably not be left in the cold.

    And yeah, student loans are fucked too. Making this a “people who went to college” versus “people who went to the military” thing is the absolute dead opposite of class consciousness, and counterproductive as shit. I’m surprised you aren’t an .ml troll.

    Edit:

    Soldiers also asked him, “And we, what should we do?” He said to them, “Do not extort money from anyone by threats or false accusation, and be satisfied with your wages. — Luke 3:14