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Cake day: July 16th, 2023

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  • Your comment is appreciated, and I love the vocabulary of vivagenic and vivalytic. It’s absolutely true that I’m less social in my free time than I used to be, and I could see that as a concern among the people who love me, (and I would take that more seriously - I was talking more about societal views) but I have a much more social work life than I used to, so it’s not as appealing to socialize in my free time now, plus I’m married now and living in a tiny apartment, so much of my home time is still not alone (I’ve used varieties of “social” way too much in this comment, but I can’t think of a better way to put it).

    I’m going to think about your comment though, I think especially the new vocab will help me more clearly conceptualize the benefits and drawbacks of coping mechanisms.


  • I’m from northern Connecticut and live in (southern, nowhere near any fished lakes) Germany. I tried seafood here a couple times when I first got here, but it’s just intolerably fishy for me, even in a taco bell sense.

    Though I guess frying it does mask a lot of fishiness. And LJSs doesn’t try for the cachet of “never-frozen,” so it’s possible it’s actually fresher than what you get in a fancy inland restaurant…

    I didn’t agree with you at first, but you might be on to something



  • Having socially valued coping skills is honestly a trip though. I used to do community dance, and even though I was overdoing it to combat my adhd (14 hours of hard cardio a week), other people were so impressed by my “commitment.” Now that I just smoke a lot of weed, even though I do it for the exact same reasons, somehow it’s trashy/childish. Playing way too much pokemon go was a half step, where it was considered child_like_, but ultimately treated as a harmless quirk, like adult Disney fans.

    I guess it’s like being a morning person (or lots of other factors that are clearly bigotry), where basically it’s just the luck of the draw and some people are assumed to be more/less capable because of random chance.

    This has really been a revelatory comment chain.



  • That’s actually fair. I had effective coping skills for my shit which the pandemic removed, and which I have as yet been unable to replace with equally societally accepted alternatives, is a better way to put it. Damn, I wasn’t expecting to develop empathy for myself and others through a post on c/memes, but there it is






  • For anyone else who’s learning something new today. That’s generally what I practice, though I tend to think of it as a form of chivalry. I’m a woman ish, but I like the idea of decoupling chivalry from gender roles and treating everyone with more care than is typical. Plus, sexist men hate nothing more than having a woman hold the door or offer to carry something heavy for them.



  • That would kill me. I realized that the computer rounds down when calculating our employee discount (we get 50% off, but if something ends in x.x5, we pay x.x2/x.x7, whereas other customers paying for half a loaf of bread would pay x.x3/x.x8) and I’ve been exploiting that since.

    I guess this comment section has been a learning experience because I realized that I am exactly the same as that customer.



  • The price of our plain Brötchen is indivisible by five, which means I get to impress the shit out of people with very basic mental math, but we do have to mess with the fiddly coins. Normally people are a little embarrassed and grimace while waiting for a tiny amount of change, but this guy was chilling. Honestly, more power to him.


  • I work at a bakery in Germany that’s open on sundays (most things are closed). Yesterday was absolutely flooded because of Mother’s Day and we kept running out of coins.

    I had a man wait over five minutes before I was able to give him his change of one cent. I wish I were so in charge of my finances.