Theres something called “morally lucky” where they didn’t really think things through that much but just ended up in the “more correct” group anyway. Some more common examples than what you gave would be things like “omg Ben Shapiro is so short what a gnome,” or “trump has a tiny dick lol!!” while saying body shaming is not okay and isn’t ever acceptable.

I think it just attracts the terminally onlines, I think most people on the fediverse are pretty cool and willing to argue stuff reasonably, but the insane people are so loud that’s what you’ll see very often.

I think it’s maybe that rts feels like you’re going into a dark room and have to fistfight some random person, in dota you at least have teammates that can help you / frustrate you, rts is just “sit there blind and try not to die to this guy who could be doing literally anything.” Once you get a lot of experience it becomes a fistfight in at least a moderately lit room lol

You should try the arcade games, some really creative ones in there. Or try the scenarios in beyond all reason, it’s more of a puzzle than a stressful game since it’s vs ai.

I have done community service several times, like helping at a grange and helping at a retirement home, you can help the community in ways that don’t or very rarely involve kids. You can help a friend with their kid without wanting kids and thinking they should not have had them, I’d also help them fix a car I don’t think they should’ve bought. With overpopulation and severe effects of climate change I would look down on having kids, because this current path isn’t sustainable, but that’s not the kid’s fault so we should still help the kid.

I think if you truly believe that, you should read about all the people who have spent months or years in total solitude and remained fulfilled. Having kids or not does not determine your long term happiness, many people with kids are unhappy even when the kids are grown up, because they didn’t learn how to be happy. I would expect being childless just gives you more time to learn about yourself, but that’s just speculation.

You went too hard in the other direction. Sure parents aren’t miserable, but studies do show childless adults are happier. Maybe they’re less fulfilled? That’s hard to say if you never wanted kids. Also you can enjoy being around friends and make their lives better and invest in your community, not like kids, and still be very fulfilled. If you don’t enjoy kids that doesn’t impact your life negatively unless you don’t understand how to be happy on your own.

The dems had the support of their entire base and most of the country, Republicans ending the philibuster and shoving it through anyway would have been extremely unpopular, even among their base. Everyone I knew was talking about how the Republicans were refusing to negotiate, then right after everyone was talking about how the dems folded as they always do… Even if they DID end the philibuster, it would show people democrats are finally trying every option possible like the Republicans have been doing for the last 10 years. The dems can make whatever statement they want, Republicans will enforce a police state but at least I know my representative was upset about it. Yes we got the epstein files with about 2 lines unredacted, I think most people would prefer their representatives fight for their healthcare instead.

This is also not a 1 time thing, Republicans philibuster Obama’s scotus pick, and democrats say “well that’s improper we can’t do that back.” Just about every chance they’ve had to fold they have and people are sick of it. If someone is beating a person up and I wag my finger at them, I’m not as bad as the person beating them up, but I’m sure not doing anything to stop it.

Not true actually, they could have blocked the ACA funding cuts but magically just enough dems switched to allow the wildly unpopular cuts. The Republicans didn’t shut down the government by voting no on a temporary resolution that would cut aca funding, the dems did, then said haha just kidding as soon as they got support for blocking it (???)

Bernie is voting against these policies and the other democrats for them, just enough to get it passed always. Just like when the government was shut down and the Republicans were wildly unpopular, Bernie voted no, the other democrats “minority that can’t do anything” voted yes and we got healthcare cuts.

This is literally called nostupidquestions and people are saying it’s a stupid question…??? some people just didn’t experience the same things. https://xkcd.com/1053/

A big reason is different texture, with the semisphere shape the middle can be fluffy while the outside is crunchy, for baguettes it’s basically a sandwich that the whole thing fits in your mouth in one orientation, so it’s a different way to eat it.

There’s an interesting technology connections video on how analog clocks can be easier to parse how “far” through the hour/day you are with just a quick glance. Hand almost at the top means the hours almost up, for instance.

A lot easier version is just short hand = the hour, long hand * 5 = the minutes

The overwhelming majority of the time people have issues with Hexbear, it’s the leftism.

This is the only thing I am responding to. Almost every comment on the defederation from hexbear thread said it was because of toxicity, not ideology. If a vegan says to someone “kys carnist, crawl into a hole and die,” and gets banned, they didn’t get banned for being vegan.

https://sh.itjust.works/post/4281207

For anyone who actually cares to look at all the people discussing their negative experiences with hexbear users.

Bonus meme: my identical comment made by someone else on the instance: https://sh.itjust.works/comment/2928583

This is essentially gaslighting. Almost every time I saw a reply that was so out of line toxic was from hexbear. Ex: “disgusting capitalist bootlicker. Kys.” under a post saying we should vote for Biden. I can go find these actual words on the post that was titled “get out and vote!” with an image that said “not voting is a vote for trump” if you want.

In my experience the worst comments have been from .world and .ml so this thread checks out lol

I would just say there are some differences even still. Trump is massively losing support even with the republicans, because most care more about the economy and inflation than whatever random agenda trump decides on that day. The firehose of falsehood I agree with, but it seems they’re incompetent even at that because most still blamed the government shutdown on Republicans. Many states are fighting against the consolidation of power and the illegal acts, like California’s redistricting and the massive protests around the country.

I’m aware of the polyanya principle but in this case it feels like most of the country isn’t just unified in not supporting him, it seems most are actively against him. The no kings protests were the 2nd largest in US history, and all the people actively fighting against ICE shows me people aren’t afraid to fight back. Also just the incompetence, ICE is a bunch of untrained overweight thugs, rather than a strong military force. The national guard being deployed to Oregon is maybe a special case since the idea that Portland was a war zone somehow was a conspiracy for quite a while. If that happened across the country I think we’d see massive revolt.

What actually happened here? Rights were flagrantly violated, then they soft backtracked, and then they issued the same threats again (on going) where they will likely backtrack less this time, and so on.

I mean maybe it’s similar to what happened in China, where they can suppress it but everyone has phones so it’s extremely difficult to actually hide it. Pretty much everyone in America heard about the Jimmy Kimmel firing, and if something like that happens again it’s a free viral story. I would agree they’re trying to normalize it, and they will try to keep taking it further and further, but we still have a ways to go considering the country’s reaction.

If it practically doesn’t, it practically doesn’t.

I mean not false, but to some people it really matters the reason. If you tell an average person “trump is a fascist” they may or may not believe you, but if you say trump is a narcissist who wants to be surrounded by yes men and fires anyone who disagrees with him and tries to get more power, almost everyone would agree. The effect is essentially the same but the intent behind it makes it feel different to people. I think maybe I would say they’re trying to be fascist, but they don’t have the support /brainpower or the ability to hide it very well.

I mean I really don’t really disagree it just doesn’t feel exactly right to call it that, I guess I can give some reasons for it. For instance only about 35% of the population even voted for Trump, so he doesn’t really have the support of the people. Our democratically elected officials are still voting on bills, and they are still (mostly) being signed off by the president. The FCC did TRY to silence someone, but the will of the people made it not happen. They do try and suppress protestors from speaking against the government, but it’s been largely pretty ineffective, minus the random brutality.

I think it’s also just the reasons someone is doing something matters, even if it practically doesn’t. If trump fires all the judges that disagree with him and appoints people that agree with him, the reason is narcissism and hurt ego, and the effects are fascist. Which is why I would say fascist actions rather than a fascist, which might be a meaningless distinction but to some it’s not.

Adhd and autism are only considered disorders in the dsm 5, which there are many papers written about how it’s a failure There’s a reason people call those neurodivergences and not something like schizophrenia.

Most people have it in them to act like animals if they get the right encouragement.

Sure? But most times I’ve seen someone being rude it’s because they totally missed what the other person is saying. Which is extremely common with autism which is extremely common on lemmy. It has nothing to do with being right or wrong or stupid or smart, that’s just how they interpreted the other persons words. Again not saying there ISN’T groupthink and tribalism, but 95% of the time I’ve said something politely and with evidence I have not been downvoted or removed.

example: (I don’t comment on politics that often)

A websites users downvoting and removing comments is not fascism because a website is not a government, and was not ordered to by the government. If the FCC threatens a broadcasting company because they don’t like what someone said, that IS a fascist action because it’s a government agency threatening a private company for saying something the government agency didn’t like. If the president breaks the law and ignores court orders, that IS a fascist action. Same with firing all judges that don’t agree with the president, same with denying to swear in certain elected officials, that is centralization of power. If someone does 8 by definition fascist things, and someone else does 0, if I call the first person a fascist I’m not calling everything I don’t like fascist, and the word has meaning because those WERE fascist actions. You can say it’s unfair because it’s only 8 fascist actions, but that doesn’t mean they’re calling everyone a fascist, just people who took 8 fascist actions in a row.

Also “I will not tolerate the intolerant” is not the same as “I will not tolerate trans/gay people existing, or people trying to say that’s wrong.” There is space for differing opinions as long as your opinion doesn’t infringe on other people existing. I can say something like I think we should spend more on schools than climate change, but I can’t say I think trans people are fake, or gay people are an abomination, or say climate change is a hoax. Would you prefer a society where an every day conversation is “should nagijala exist? It’s a horrible thing to be one of those people. Truly disgusting, it’s an affront to God.” And you hear that daily and fear for your life? Or allow vaccine misinformation so measles come back like it is in Florida. Personally I don’t want to live in that society. I have also never had my comment deleted and rarely get downvoted, while expressing a different opinion to the majority in almost every comment. I can show examples if you want.

I’m not really sure, maybe it’s just the extent or the amount of incompetence that makes it different to me. It’s sort of like fascism-lite, because even if trump WANTS all trans people taken away / treated as undesirables and has caused a lot more people to hate them, he hasn’t been able to enact “if you are trans you will be killed” like I would expect under fascism. I also don’t feel like even the crazy maga people want the democratic party to not exist, they just want democrats to “stop being stupid.”

I was listening to an expert on cults talk about trump and MAGA, and he said trump plays to the crowd rather than saying what he believes. For instance when he said "I hope you’re all vaccinated " in Missouri i believe, the crowd booed him and he quickly changed to “you should have the freedom to choose.” I think narcissistic con man fits everything he does more accurately than fascist, but still that’s why when someone calls him a fascist I don’t really complain.

I’m pretty happy but not that healthy from a chronic illness so maybe you have a point.

Idk I’ve had I would say a majority good interactions on lemmy, I’ve definitely seen people being cringe and rude but that doesn’t seem to be the norm. Maybe it’s just because I qualify what I say a lot to not be misunderstood idk

Some examples:

me raising a point counter to the post and generally nice replies

friendly discussion on lemmys user numbers

Me responding slightly rudely to someone discrediting protestors