Being poly to get all chores done.
Being poly to use your D20 to allocate chores.
But like, seriously. I’ve been (mostly jokingly) begging my husband’s girlfriend to move in for a decade. Daily life would be SO MUCH easier with 3 adults at home.
I know a poly situation that shares a house and a child. The child’s biological parents are no longer together, but 4 people live in the house and rotate school drop offs and pick-ups so there’s always someone home with the kid. And the adults still get to have non-kid centric parts of their lives.
One of the underrated benefits of dating someone who is dating someone else is that, when my boyfriend does something silly, I get to tattle to his girlfriend.
“Your boyfriend did blah.”
And then we get to giggle about how cute he is.
OKAY BUT HOW. I can’t even find one damn person, now I’m supposed to find multiple WHO ARE COOL WITH EACH OTHER!?
What kind of lives do you people even lead?
My fiancé and I were splitting up. I met my now partner on Tinder. They were poly from the start so I had to get used to that.
Married 8 years now, they’ve added a boyfriend and I have two girlfriends.
How does that work with time spent with one another and housing? I feel like I’d be tired trying to prioritize spending time with so many different individuals if that makes sense. I barely have the energy to hang out with one friend lmao
Some of our partners are long distance to it’s about planned travel like visiting someone for holidays. But we’re in talks with one of my gfs to move here permanently and she’d likely live about 20 minutes from us. So I’d more than likely see her after work as I work in the town she’d live in, then go home to my partner. Or my gf would spend the weekend here or something.
Genuinely, Poly isn’t for everyone. It’s literally multiple relationships. Think about how much effort you put into your own monogamous relationship. Then add another. And another. My partner I live with we’re working on getting them abdominal surgery and top surgery. My GF who might move here is a medical student who’s clinically blind is living with her mum who has major health concerns so she goes to school full time and then has to come home and caretake. My other GF is dealing with her dad possibly dying while she navigates weight loss, body image issues, and surgeries coming up this summer.
And I need to be available all the time for all three of them. It’s not all about “Omg you must have so much sex”. It’s about being present for people you love 24/7. And if you find that difficult for spending that energy on one person… Then don’t do Poly.
Have you tried being an attractive woman?
I forgot it was an option, honestly. Good call.
Honestly it’s a lot of calendar management and Trello boards. But we get to share on the cost of subscriptions, which is nice.
I’d never survive then, particularly without ADHD meds, as is presently relevant.
Have you ever talked to a polycule? Most drama on earth
I promise plenty avoid the drama. also my god, have you ever talked to a monogamous couple?
Okay, but none of you are addressing the HOW? question. Dating apps suck now, it’s so hard to meet people, where are poly people meeting!? It’s literally a purely logistical question, to me. How. Where.
Queer coffee shop that also does DND nights 🤣
Queer spaces/meetups mostly! Or meeting partners’ partners. Grindr gets a bad rap for not entirely undeserved reasons, but I did meet some wonderful people there too.
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What does relationship style have to do with appearance? And who cares about appearance over personality? Weird comment
Being Poly because you‘re unable to have functional relationships.
Good news everyone! You can now have multiple dysfunctional relationships at the same time.
Just take that marriage, open her right up, and your problems will just walk right out the front door.
