You guys can afford to go to a cafe on a regular basis?
I don’t have friends, but the people at the coffee drive-through have started recognizing me. Can’t wait to get apartments together with them soon.
I’m not alone! My local coffee stand baristas have an insane memory and know all of the regulars by name. I could never have that kind of memory (likely attributed to decades of smoking the devil’s lettuce)
Dude, no joke.
I went back to a coffee shop like months later, i had only been a few times total, and the barista greeted me by name. Wtf. I was floored.
My memory is shit as well and i can’t even attribute to any fun activities…
These are all set in walkable cities, it makes sense to have a favorite cafe near where you all live.
I have a favourite cafe near where I live but I cant afford to go there every day 😭
100% though there are groups of retired folks that definitely do meet up there regularly like in these shows.
I live in a walkable neighborhood, and I have a version of this with the other parents in our neighborhood, where we have a designated night of the week where anyone who can make it meets up at one of the patio restaurants where the kids can run around while the parents hang out. Not everyone makes it every week, but we’ve got a good group of friends.
I dunno, even if we check in first, doesn’t anyone else have any effectively semi standing “see you there” meets? (Like, where if someone wasn’t going to be there, they’d probably text you.)
Pre texting, I suppose the alternative was either make plans each and every time by calling a few people or, a standing arrangement, like coffee wherever, call me if you can’t make it otherwise I’ll see you there.
it’s called “my place” or “their place”, and we make coffee for a cent on the dollar
Not everyday but my friend ground have our hangout space that we can go every weekend, which is one friend’s shop.
Third spaces were much more common before the 2000s. Coffee shops where you could hang out with friends were actually a thing in the 90s. Open mic nights and karaoke. I remember we had a common ritual at the book store I worked where everyone who closed would meet up at TGI Fridays for late night drinks, TGIF doesn’t even exist any more. I used to meet up with a bunch of friends at Dennys every Thursday night, and then it fucking closed.
Holy shit how haven’t I noticed all the TGIFs were gone?
They absolutely still exist lol https://tgifridays.com/
There are 85 locations remaining in the united states. Thats down from 270 in the 90s. There are only four in California where I live.
They got bought up by private equity and gutted, just like red lobster.
Kmart and sears too.
Sears had it bad. It got stripped out and then bought by Kmart, and then it got stripped agian.
Of course. How else would we develop the exposition other people will need to understand our narrative?
Not anymore but a bit younger, sure. There was one bar and food spot that you would always run into a few people you knew. Your closer friends more often, but all the regulars grew to know each other. Was great fun
Jitters
When I was a teen our spot was Dunkin’ Donuts after school - we befriended another group - of retirees. As an adult it became a bar.
Not really. Good coffee shops and pubs are always full. So most of the time we just settle for the place which have free seats that day.
For those of who worked at certain restaurants, you might have experienced a dedicated group of 75+ friends and yes they do meet at the same place everyday. In fact when we were closed they’d camp outside in the parking lot in lawn chairs.
The exact same group of geriatrics… every single day. Honestly it was sad to see one missing and not come back because you knew why.
100%
Worked at a retirement place as a server. This to the next level. Doors open at 7 for breakfast. The line started at 630 same people. Same table. Same orders. We could pre set their specific flavored creamers.
When the lady who got half a grapefruit passed it felt empty to not have her 1 but then every time we had a extra grapefruit left it was like seeing her again.
We don’t meet up in person too often, but my friends from college have a discord server that pretty much always at least 2 or 3 people chilling in. Sometimes we play games together, other times everyone is doing their own thing but it’s nice to have people to talk to when gaming. Also most of us live too far from each other to meet up all the time. I guess this is like the modern day, post covid, equivalent of everyone meeting up in a bar or cafe after work
My bf has a discord server with his friends too. Whenever one of this is online, they hop in the voice channel and just hang out. If someone else logs in, they chat, otherwise they just leave it up.
I’m a hardcore introvert. I don’t have the energy to maintain friendships like this.
