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Cake day: June 29th, 2025

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  • They were all great quality, although I made them. There used to be a trend where you could buy pirated copies of movies, and they’d have a cheap paper sticker on the disc, they’d be at local markets and stalls on the weekends. They were absolutely abysmal quality. Grainy, colours all oversaturated, lines all through them, super quiet sound. You couldn’t watch them. People would buy them and give them to me. But they were just trash.

    When I was a kid I had a copy box that took off the copywrite protection, on vhs, and I used to tweak the vcr to pile multiple movies on one vhs. It had this system of super fast, skip fast forwarding, where you selected the number of the movie and it zapped to it. I was so young, I cannot remember how it worked. Then I got a computer and downloaded DVD shrink and DVD decryptor. You couldn’t tell the copy from the original.



  • It’s a cult, it’s literally using cult trapping tactics, that’s why people are so delusional. Knowing that, might help in how you approach, should you choose to try.

    Look after yourself, too. It’s all a lot to take on, and they want everyone stuck in fight or flight, because it literally shuts down your critical thinking. The most empowering thing to do, right now, is beat their game against you, and find ways to bring yourself down out of fight or flight, after seeing the stuff going on, because your fight or flight can’t tell the difference between being there and watching a video. Complete the stress cycle after you see this stuff, hum, sing, dance or go for a walk, are some options.

    Find ways to decompress. Maybe it’s going to get hard, having good strategies to help yourself cope, and learning tools and techniques to undo the damage seeing this does, is going to make this an easier ride. We can beat them. They know that. They are scared of us. We will get through this.







  • I think they mean how the suggested responses were summarised, sometimes when you choose that dialogue option it doesn’t always say the thing it suggested in exactly the way you were expecting,. Personally I found it on point and did fit within the parameters of the summarisation. My 17yo son played it and loved it so much he made me sit and play it with him, and I noticed that he didn’t pick up on what some of the dialog summaries meant. Whereas old and ancient me, whose been around the block a fair bit, understood the nuances behind them all.



  • I imagine it can be hard to scroll past someone saying something very off the wall. When you read someone’s comment it’s hard not to feel like they’re talking directly to you, and if you don’t align with what they’re saying, especially if you’re far from it, it can be hard to resist correcting them or giving them your opinion, when I catch myself doing this, I try to reframe it to ask a question, rather than dump opposing facts.

    But there’s another perspective I try really hard to keep in mind, if I were sitting at a table with a group of people and someone was loudly saying those things to me in person, I wouldn’t engage. I’d move to a quieter spot and ask the people I do like at the table to come for a chat there, or I’d acknowledge their feelings (but not the topic) and move to a different conversation topic.

    But I feel like I need more practice at doing this when it’s in a text form of socializing, as this is.

    I notice some amazing people on here, whom I aspire to learn from, that handle conflicting opinions with grace, and inclusion.

    And I understand the dehumanisation that text conversations, present, it can be easy to imagine a hostility that may not be behind the comment. We’re all filling in the blanks of the personality behind the commenter. I worked a checkout for a good decade, so I’m very familiar with positions that can become dehumanised. Especially seeing as that seemed to be throughout a time when a huge bulk of people felt like they were only going to get righted the situation they believed had wronged them, by yelling or getting massively agro at the poor checkout chick who was gunna set that right wrong, because fk corporations, I enjoyed giving as much free stuff away as possible, any excuse, within the rules I could muster.

    I absolutely understand tensions being high, currently, with world events being what they are. And there’s so much propaganda trying to brain wash us into being an army for their cause, and it’s all rage baity. So there’s even more rage and tension built up. I get it.

    I really feel for people who can’t, and haven’t been helped to learn how to help and sooth their emotions, and then those emotions fester into all consuming things. And they find a cause to funnel that emotion into. Without really addressing that emotion, therefore not actual helping, processing or soothing that emotion.

    See, we feel a feeling first, and then we ascribe a meaning, after. Except those two parts of the brain don’t actually communicate. The emotional brain is essentially non verbal, and the thinking brain, is verbal, but obviously it doesn’t do emotions. So you have this thinking guy in your head trying to tell you what emotions mean, except that guy is not an expert and knows nothing about them.

    Your emotional brain is essentially a, very detailed messenger system for checking the temperature of the room. If shit feels off, it sends an alarm. Your emotions are a message to you that the shower temperature is too hot. It’s not really about that argument you had with your sibling last fortnight.

    And to top it off, your emotional brain is non verbal, so all that ranting that you do, thinking that you solve the anger (or whatever emotion) you feel isn’t! It’s actually making it worse.

    Your emotional brain is super primal, and very simplistic. All it wants is to know you took your hand out of the broiling hot shower water, and now your safe, and it’s message worked. It feels the environment and let’s you know if that’s vibing good stuff or danger. Sometime all you gotta do is change environment, or do a couple of jumping jacks, to help that emotional brain know, dangers gone. If you sit in the same spot and stress, your brain can even learn, that’s a stressful spot to sit, every time we sit here, bam, gotta be bad, and spits up those same feelings, even if it’s about nothing, just habit.

    It also believes anything you tell it, because it’s listening to vibes. So even if shits fkd, right now, you have to keep telling yourself, everything is OK, you are safe and a capable bad ass, who has handled all the shit life threw so far, so you absolutely got this. Time to shine.

    Your emotions are a message for you, and you alone. And if you expect others to sooth your emotions, all the time, you tell yourself that you don’t trust yourself to be capable of helping yourself process emotions. Obviously, we also need connection, so at the same time, it’s not at all about doing it alone. But it’s more about feeling safe to sit in emotions, rather than, fixing them. The way forward is sometimes the way back, sit in the emotion. Don’t try and put it out like it’s a fire, or distract it with shiny things. Just be, and listen, feel. Sometimes you need to sit with someone and not feel like you have to create a false front. Just sit and feel, for a bit.

    If you’re getting stuck in emotions for elongated periods of time, there’s people who spend multiple years at school learning how to try and show you all the tips and tricks we’ve learned so far. Have a chat with one (or two if you don’t vibe with numerous uno) of them.

    It’s literally all about emotional regulation. The mean people, haven’t been able to process their emotions, have never been taught how, their parents didn’t know, themselves, to tell them. And they’re being bombarded with proverbial tornadoes from all sides. And there’s so much rage baity propaganda, all designed to fuel and feed off that.


  • Does anyone really believe it was ever about protecting the kids? I thought it was super obvious it’s about mass surveillance. It’s so they can link a database of *exactly who is saying what. And then do something evil af with that info, yeah? It’s just being poorly framed as “protecting kids” so no one can object, then they look like they don’t “care about kids”. Even though there’s so much proof it doesn’t help kids. What would help kids is parents who are able to be with their kids, rather than have to work fingers to bone to just scrape by. They could do information packages for parents, informing them of the risks and how to mitigate, as has been done before. This empowers no one, even if you believe their whole diatribe.


  • Yea, but there’s more to it than that. Thyroid causes issues that cause weight to pack on, no matter what your caloric intake is, menopause causing low estrogen causes weight gain because the visceral fat around your organs, the type you can’t exercise off, makes a kinda knock off estrogen, so your body packs on weight, to try and make estrogen there. You could eat one meal a day, all healthy and still put weight on. And there’s so many more health conditions that cause weight gain. Just Genetics, even. The calories in vs calories out theory has been debunked as a singular cause. Sure, if you have no underlying health issues and you watch what you eat, focus on fibre, legumes, vegetables etc, exercise the right amount, you will lose weight, but, if you are able to do that, you are probably already thin. People who are overweight, overwhelmingly have other conditions causing issues, too.




  • Those are opinions, not facts. Opinions are not facts. That’s just what you think and feel, relevant only to you. Your opinion doesn’t shoot someone else’s opinion down, if they differ, that just means you disagree. If you disagree with someone, you come off douchey af if you try and tell them they’re wrong, because you have a different opinion. You are better off (as in you come across less douchey) if you just ask people about their opinions, if they differ to yours, because, that expands your ability to understand more about the world. If you stay in your own little echo chamber, and never step outside your comfort zone, your mind stays small.

    But to answer your other question, I would not say “that sounds likely false” to someone, that instantly puts you on the defensive and I actually want to know, if someone has different information than me, or has formed a different opinion, I want to know why. If I know they’re definitely wrong, I ask questions that lead them to the conclusion, without having to say, you’ve been duped by propaganda, because if they aren’t capable of coming to that conclusion on their own, they won’t take it from me in another way, anyway. People don’t respond well to being told, straight up, they’re wrong, that’s not a way to discuss, and it doesn’t work to help people change their minds.



  • Why do people do this, just pull apart someone’s comment, dismiss and disregard everything they say. No questions. Just, bam bam bam, you’re wrong on all counts, because my opinion thinks you are wrong and my opinion is somehow more valid than yours. Do you talk to people like this irl. Wtf.